Posted By Thomas Perez. July 6, 201o at 7:21pm. Copyright 2010.
The Bible reveals many things about women. It reveals their strengths, beauty, service, role in public worship, and dignity. Let us examine some of these claims.
A. Women Are to Be praised and Given Due Respect
Examples of women being greeted, serving, and laboring:
Mary, Phebe, Priscilla, Persis, Trophena, Tryphosa, Julia, Apphia, Luis, and Eunice. (Rom 16, Phil 4, II Tim 5:16).
Women also serve in the Gospel (Rom 16:1-4, Phil 4:3)
Examples of service:
Older Women (I Tim 5:9-10)
Deacons Assistants (I Tim 3:11)
Women are able to support others (I Tim 5:16)
Lydia (Acts 16:14, 40)
Dorcus (Acts 9:36)
Mary, the mother of John (Acts 12:2)
Phillip’s daughter (Acts 21:8-9)
Women are equal to men in Christ (Gal 3:28, I Cor 12:13)
The Bible praises the joy of Christian wifehood and that of Motherhood and recommends marriage even for widows ( I Cor 7:39, I Tim 2:15, 4:3, 5:14). However, there are circumstances under which the Apostle Paul considers it better not to marry (I Cor 7:26-27).
The Bible in no way puts down women or holds a low view point of them (I Cor 7:4, 14, 11:7, 11, Eph 5:25-33, Phil 4:3).
With that said, let us consider the finer roles of a women besides jumping to the ever popular Proverbs 31 citation.
B. In Ref to Older Women: Titus 2:3
1. Women should have reverence – Reverent in their behavior.
2. Transparency – Not malicious gossips.
3. Self – Control – Not a slave to any bad habits.
4. Wisdom – Teaching what is good.
5. Being an example to younger women – Encouraging younger women to be godly.
C. In Ref to Younger Women: Titus 2:4
1. Love – Love their husbands.
2. Love – Love their children.
3. wisdom – Be sensible.
4. Purity – Be Pure (The opposite as such is found in Pro 7:1-27, 12:4).
5. Industrious – Workers at home and if necessary out in the work force.
6. Kindness – Be kind (The opposite of this is found in Pro 21:19, 25:24).
7. Submission – Being subject to their own husbands in ref to obedience (Eph 5:21-24, I Pet 3:1).
This is where most women fail. Where women fail in obedience to men, men fail in respect and love in ref to women. In Ephesians 6:1, Paul instructs children to obey their parents. No parent in their right mind would ever disagree with this verse. But yet at the same time a wife/mother would tend to disagree with the scriptural citation of obeying her husband. This may be in part due to women’s liberation and equal rights today, of which the Bible specifically agrees with. As quoted above, women are equal to men.
What Paul is trying to convey here is a sense of priority: In ref to women, Christ should be 1st, the husband 2nd, the children 3rd, family 4th, friends 5th, and themselves last. In Ref to Men, Christ should be 1st, the wife 2nd, the children 3rd, and so on….However, in matters of maintaining a marriage, two basic ingredients should always be included:
1. A Wife’s Obedience – The reason for this is found in (I Cor 11:12, I Tim 2:12-14).
2. A Husband’s Love – (Eph 5:25).
When a husband love’s his wife and tells her often, by word, deed, and respect, a wife would have no difficulty in obeying her husband. No matter how idiotic a husband might be in ref to financial decisions, scriptural knowledge, or any other area’s of importance, let the husband be. When the husband falls flat on his face, don’t tell him, “I told you so”! Instead; pray for him, support him, encourage him, tell him he will do better the next time, tell him, “I believe in you sweetheart”. A husband needs assurance. A husband needs to have his ego fed from time to time. In turn he will love, honor, and respect you. In the end, he might obey your suggestion on how things should be in the family unit. But always obey him, even if you don’t agree with everything he says. Speak your peace, but leave it at that. Let Christ, who is the head of the husband deal with him, not the wife.
D. In Ref to a Women’s Outward Appearance: Let Us Consider These Passages of Scripture (Isa 3:16-24, I Pet 3:1-6, I Tim 2:9-10)
1. A woman of God should not dress as a harlot or as they say in the streets…a slut. This is found in Proverbs 7:10.
2. A women should dress in modest apparel and of sobriety. Not to bring reproach to the name of Christ (Rom 14:16).
3. A woman should dress in a way in which becomes a woman professing godliness.
4. Yet, a woman should dress to please her own husband in a sexual manner (of course this is done in private) I Cor 7:2-4, not defrauding or holding back your God given sexual desires within the marriage bed. In other words…Wives, let it all hang out! That goes for the husband’s to! Enjoy each other’s love making!
5. A women who keeps her hair is considered glorious to the eyes of Christ (I Cor 11:15). It is considered a natural covering unto the Lord, not to mention, attractive to the eyes of men. What Paul is trying to say is that a women’s outward appearance should not be the focal point of her life. One should seek the kingdom of God first (Matt 6:33). Paul also said that the body is the temple of the Holy Spirit (I Cor 6:19-20)…therefore, one should take care of it in all matters, whether that be in beauty, health, or basic everyday needs. What God is against is the vanity that can be associated with the very same beauty he has blessed you with.
E. In Ref to Women Finding the Right Marriage Partner
This is difficult to say the least, due to the fact that many marriages unfortunately end in divorce (including many Christian marriages). Many couples who were once married believed that it was the will of God that united them together. but after a couple of months or years they call it quits. Why does this happen to supposedly godly individuals? Did they make a mistake? Did they misinterpret the inner voice of the Holy Spirit as many believe they thought they heard? Many choose to be guided by inner promptings, voices (often attributing that voice to the Holy Spirit), dreams, visions, prophetic words, or confirmation from family members, or that of Church authority.
This may sound spiritual and may demonstrate a sensitivity to the Holy Spirit, but I do not believe this is how God operates in declaring His will pertaining to any plans He has for our lives. Instead the key ingredient is to use WISDOM when making an important decision. Whether that decision is choosing a college, a local church, a career, or a potential marriage partner, one should be careful to always exercise wisdom. One should remember that “Every date is a potential mate”. Dating is the means in which we find out whether he or she is the right one for us. The beauty may be there, the attraction may be there, the personality may be there, and the spiritual aspect may be there, but we must, nevertheless, consider a potential partner within the confines of WISDOM.
As Christians we tend to forget the godly principle of wisdom. The Church today instead tends to focus on manifestational gifts. They focus very little on the WORD and the pearls of WISDOM that can be found in it! if we study the scriptures, master it, take it in, hide it in our hearts, use it as an instructional tool, and use it as a correctional tool, perhaps, we wouldn’t make the mistake of misinterpreting God’s voice, because His voice is in His word…(Psa 119:9, 11, II Tim 3:16).
Here Are 8 Principles That Can Be Beneficial When Applied
1. Be realistic in your expectations.
2. Be Biblical in your preparation.
3. Realize that marriage is a growth process, not the means of finding Mr. or Miss. Perfect.
4. Read Biblical passages of scripture pertaining to marital stories (e.g. Ruth & Boaz, Rebecca & Isaac, Jacob, Leah, & Rachel…of whom Jacob waited a total of 14 years to marry, the Songs of Solomon – though not every scholar would agree that this book is that of an erotic celebration between a husband & wife exchanging words and intimacy).
5. Do not be un-equally yoked with an unbeliever (II Cor 6:14).
6. Examine their fruit (Matt 12:33, Gal 5:22-25).
7. And always set your affections above (Col 3:1-2).
8. Trust in God, lean not onto your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your path (Pro 3:5-6).
Remember to ask yourself: “Can I acknowledge the Lord in him or her”?