Posted By Thomas Perez. December 26, 2011 at 11:59pm. Copyright 2011.
(Please Note: Though we are not under the law, we should, nevertheless, follow its principles of morality and sanctity. Grace should never be considered as an excuse to abuse the laws of Christ. For we all should remember that Christ came not to abolish the law, but to fulfill it. I say these things because I do not want the reader to ms-interpret what I’ am trying to convey in this study. The purpose of this study is to promote godly principles. The Law, the writings, the prophets, the Psalms, and the Proverbs are chuck full of them. For they are all written for our personal growth, protection, and admonition.
Moreover, this study is a viewpoint. It is not dogma per-Se. It may apply to some or it may apply to none. Only your conscience knows the truth of your soul/nephesh. But it is based upon principles. With that said, let us begin…
If we consider that the union of a man with his wife involves a giving of the man’s nephesh (soul/life) to his wife through the blood, perhaps the condemnation of adultery and sodomy can be better understood. And why the Law seems to “pick on the woman” more regarding adultery; and why “sodomy” is mentioned so much, but not lesbianism.
“They say, If a man divorces his wife, and she goes from him and becomes another man’s, may he return to her again? Would not the land be greatly polluted?” (Jere 3:1). Why would the land be “polluted?” Because of the blood of marriage. In Deuteronomy 24, the law said if a woman left a man and went to another man, and if it comes to pass that she is left alone due to the second man having died or simply because she left him, she could not come back to her first husband. But why? Why can’t she go back to her 1st husband? Perhaps it has more to to do with the sanctity of the nephesh. Possibly the one she received from her first marriage. She first received the soul of one man, then from another, and then back unto the 1st man. An intermingling of nepheshs? Perhaps.
However, such intermingling is not limited to actual sexual intercourse. Case and point. A man or a woman can engage in intimacy via kissing and hugging (foreplay, if you will) and feel a connection or attachment. Though the actual soul remains unaffected by this connection, attraction, and attachment. Whereas others may feel nothing at all for the individual they were kissing or hugging. Yet others can actually perform, so to speak, the act of sexual contact without the intimacy, often building walls of separation between His/her lover – this is lust. The latter (as in the case of non-chemistry) should be a clear indication that one should stop right there – there is no chemistry, even if the person is attractive, cute, handsome, or pretty, the chemistry does not exist. But when chemistry does exist, it is often difficult not to carry and see it through its natural step by step process of sexual excitement. It is difficult to draw the line.
It might be difficult to understand why this is so. We can only see the physical. We cannot see the soul. We cannot observe the spiritual (Jn 3:8). We must take God’s Word in faith. But understand that this is so important a matter, that when the ‘sons of God’ came and became one with the women in Genesis 6, the pollution was so great, it says “the earth also was corrupt before God” (vs 11) that He sent the flood to wipe out all living flesh; except for what was saved in the ark. And Noah was saved, with his family, because he was “perfect in his generations” (vs 9). “Perfect” in this case means, “to have integrity” or being “in tact.” It had not been corrupted. (Note: In all honesty, there are at least 3 different interpretations regarding the ‘sons of God’, of which I will not cover here. That is a different topic altogether, so lets keep our focus).
Why is sodomy condemned so much in Scripture? Why was Sodom and Gomorrah destroyed? “You shall not lie with a male as with a woman. It is an abomination” (Lev18:22). Remember what happens in marriage? The man gives his nephesh to his wife. His soul becomes part of the woman through his seed. It is a “one-way” relationship. But when two men do what they do, it becomes a “two-way” situation. They are each giving each other their soul/s. It becomes like the “blood oath” of cutting and sharing the blood. Same as those cultures that would drink the blood of their vanquished enemies. Those cultures have left their ziggurat ruins as reminders of their former greatness, and how far they fell under God’s judgment.
And then there’s that other matter found in the O.T. A law given through Moses. And please pardon that I even mention such matters. But if it was important enough to be mentioned in the Scriptures, then it should be important enough to elaborate on. Perhaps we can gain understanding of a taboo so often kept under the sheets. The verse of Scripture I’ am referring to is Lev 18:19 “Also you shall not approach a woman to uncover her nakedness (have sex) as long as she is in her customary [menstrual] impurity.” Modern people wonder “why” such a law? Modern medicine says that there is nothing wrong with being together when a woman is having her period. But what is the nature of menstruation? BLOOD. The woman’s blood. If she is in her time of blood, some of her blood (nephesh) goes to the man. Why is that wrong? We’ll answer this in just a moment…
Originally God decreed, “therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh”. (Gen 2:24) Church leaders are to be “the husband of ONE wife” (I Tim 3:2). A man and a woman.
The question is often raised…”Why did so many men in the O.T. have more than one wife?” Why did God allow that? In fact, in the Law God makes special edicts for the case where a man has more than one wife. “If a man has two wives, one loved and the other unloved…etc” (Deut 21:15). But haven’t you ever wondered or noticed why you never see a structurally sanctioned situation where one woman has more than one husband? Why is this so? The answer should be obvious when we consider the ‘direction’ of flow of the nephesh. It goes from the man to his wife, just as Christ’s Life nephesh comes to the Church. And in some ways, the husband who has more than one wife might be another sort of picture of Christ and the Church, the “many members in one body” (Rom 12:4, I Cor 12:12,20). Please understand…this is not to sanction polygamy. But as the one man would give to his plurality of wives, so Christ gives to the plurality which is His body, the Church.
So, perhaps it is now easier to see why harlotry is condemned. The woman thus engaged is piling on upon herself all the souls (nephesh) of everyone she is with. It becomes a question of “Who is she?” Perhaps this explains why people today who continually ‘play the field’ have so many emotional problems and identity crises. They are on the “fast track.” Many also see their therapist on a regular basis. And sodomy…well…we have said enough. Put two-and-two together; it equals four and the more they mix it up, it becomes factors of multiplication. If it can be said that there are degrees to perversion, perhaps this explains why sodomy is considered an act condemned by God.
But in all honesty, the nephesh, in my opinion, can also be transferred from woman to man via her vaginal fluids – which also contains the blood/the life. Though its direction is usually from the males reproductive organ to the woman’s. This may explain why a man may prefer certain personality characteristics of one woman and certain physically alluring characteristics of another. This may be the reason why sex during menstruation is considered a no-no in Scripture. So I don’t think men are immune to this transference.
It is a common understanding that when a couple is married, the woman undergoes a change. Psychology labels it as a kind of “emotional attachment” to the man; but I don’t know if they have ever figured it out as to “why” this is so. It is so much more than mere “emotions.” She receives the man’s soul so to speak. Examples of such can be seen in various documentaries shows. Shows that often tell of a man who is found to have been polygamous relationships. Most people, as well as the news reporters, wonder why the various wives don’t just do away with the man. Various wives discover that they are not his “only one,” and even meet each other. But upon meeting each other, they still desire to remain with the man, and they will be seen sitting together in the same room with each other, each saying that they love him. This may be so because they all possess his nephesh. For as much as Jacob’s wives strove with each other like scratching hissing cats, they all desired to be with Jacob and bear his children. In addition, perhaps this explains, a bit, that glow women speak of that they see in each other when the other has been with a man? Sometimes couples even begin to look alike.
This may also be the reason why a woman or man should keep themselves pure, remaining as virgins – awaiting the man or woman he or she will marry. Today’s lust-filled society says, “play the field.” “Experiment.” “Go shopping” and figure out exactly “what it is you want.” Then, you will be ready for the “right man or woman” when you find him or her. Trouble is, by the time he or she has dallied around so much, and received of all these different souls, their own identity is ruined/lost. Did you ever wonder why some men and women simply cannot seem to be able to “give” themselves to their husbands or wives, once they have settled down? Why the divorce rate is so high? The world says, that “shopping” will “enhance” the marriage once it comes. Trouble is, the “first one” was their marriage. By playing the field, he or she actually essentially obliterated all hope of ever having a decent marriage. Not that it is impossible to have a decent marriage, but like the saying goes, “you never forget your first.” Moreover, you begin to expose yourself to comparisons. You may constantly compare this man to that man, or this woman to that woman.
However, in reference to the topic of divorce, divorce should never be a means of an excuse for extra-marital affairs – because remember; Men, you gave your souls to the women. Woman, you collected the soul of your first husband. If you must marry again, and I speak this as in my own opinion; please stop there – do not go any further (like into a third or fourth marriage, etc); least you begin to heap upon yourself multiple souls. Men, if you must re-marry – then do not make it a habit of donating your blood – souls – least you become impure and unrighteous. For God will certainly ask you to give an account of the souls you have infested onto the various women you’ve slept with.
And fathers…if you lay with your daughters…you may have given her a double portion of yourself – all your lusts and desires are upon her. Mothers…if you lay with your sons…you may have given him your soul/femininity. But even in all this, God is MERCIFUL. “According to the doings of the land of Egypt (the world)…you shall not do. You shall observe My judgments and keep My ordinances, to walk in them: I am your God. None of you shall approach anyone who is near of kin to him, to (have sex) with them: I am God…Do not defile yourselves with any of these things; for by all these the nations are defiled, which I am casting out before you…therefore I visit the punishment of its iniquity upon it…for whoever commits any of these abominations, the persons who commit them shall be cut off from among their people. Therefore you shall keep My ordinance…and that you do not defile yourselves by these abominable customs: I am your God.” (Lev18:1-30).
So now, as Believers…who do we spend our time with? The world or Christ? Do we take upon ourselves the world’s nephesh? If we have Christ, taking on the world is defilement. It is corruption. It is a mixing of different souls. As we asked about the harlot, we then ask about ourselves, “Who are we?” And this is the question that keeps coming up about the pretend church. Who are they? The world certainly can’t tell! And True Believers are always questioning, but never sure.
But there is an even greater reason, and actually, the number one reason. It is the very crux of the whole matter. “Why?” “So what if a person has several souls/nephesh?” “Why is such a thing so detestable to God?” In order to answer that question I began thinking somewhat like the psalmist, “When I thought how to understand this, it was too painful for me until I went into the sanctuary of God; Then I understood their end.” (Psa 73:16-17). For this we go way back, again, to the beginning. Remember, God made man “in His own image.” (Gen1:26-27). What is God’s image? “The LORD our God, the LORD is ONE” (Deut 6:4) God is ONE. The LORD Himself is God in heaven above and on the earth beneath; there is NO OTHER” (Deut 4:39). “Is there a God besides Me? Indeed there is no other Rock; I know not one” (Isa 44:8). “I am the LORD, and there is no other” (Is 45:5).
When a man goes into a woman, it is a picture of when God “breathed into” man and gave him H/his soul (nephesh). There is only ONE God for man. By the same token, there is only ONE man for the woman. Anything else is like idolatry. When God said, “You shall have no other gods before Me” (Ex 20:3), if we understand what marriage is, the same holds true and the husband could say, “you shall have no other husbands before me” (Hos 3:3). Similarly, the woman can also claim “you shall not donate your nephesh before me.” God is jealous (at least we are told so) when people go after other gods (Ex 20:5) just as a man is jealous when some other man is with his wife. “For jealousy is a husband’s fury; therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance” (Pro 6:34). In spite of today’s permissive society that say the man should not restrict his wife in terms of who she can see, I say, they may be mistaken. Though some would object to this form of reasoning, yet I only mention it in passing – as a means to avoid the outsider, the intruder, and the home wrecker! Perhaps jealously is given to the man by God, to help maintain purity. Perhaps jealousy is a good thing after all. But an abuse of power is never permitted by God.
Back to the picture of Christ and the Church. There is one body and one Spirit, one Lord and one faith (Eph 4:4-5). When a woman goes to another man she has “cast off her first faith so to speak” (1Tm 5:12). You see, the order is God – Christ – Man – Woman (I Cor 11:3). Just as the breath of life is from God – His Soul/Spirit – (Gen 2:7), the woman is from man. “For man is not of the woman, but the woman is of the man. Nor was the man created for the woman, but woman for the man” (I Cor 11:8-9, Gen 2:20). This is God’s creative order of things. I’m not being chauvinistic in this. This is God’s design. The blood, and therefore the nephesh goes from the man to the woman. It simply does not work the other way around – though their may be some attachments to a particular woman as demonstrated above via her own bodily fluid. “Adam was formed first, then Eve.” (1 Tim 2:13). Two women cannot give it to each other in God’s designed/ordained manner; it is simply impossible – yet fluids, or secretions, can be exchanged between woman, but it contains NO semen/nephesh, but it does contain blood cells which can induce sexual diseases. Nor could a man exchange their souls for the one that he may love of the same sex.
This may be the reason why sexual diseases are so prevalent in a permissive society in both male and female relationships. Be it heterosexual, bisexual, gay, or lesbian, most STD are transferred via the blood/semen and/or bodily fluids. Thus the blood is the life of the flesh (Lev. 17:11) or via the semen containing the life. The blood produces our life or soul if you will. The principle conveyed first in Leviticus 17 is that “the life is in the blood.” Pressing this matter further, we can safely conclude that God values life as precious. Knowing this I believe His heart breaks when individuals suffer their own condemnations in the form of diseases.
It spreads like the cancer that it is – even onto the innocent (the unborn child), but even in this God has provided scientists with “the know how” to defeat certain diseases like HIV by vaccination of the unborn child through the mother. Moreover, many can also contract diseases like HIV through use of intravenous drugs. But one can never say God didn’t warn us. There were many diseases in Biblical times; like leprosy, syphilis, and gonorrhea, etc. Many scholars suggest leprosy was a form of herpes or shingles – which can be associated as being one and the same, or the former (herpes) springing from an individual who was never vaccinated for chicken pox. Chicken pox is a form of shingles.
But the history of various diseases and their persistent presence outside the act of sexual promiscuity is a wonton act of violation against all that is “life” or “blood.” At present I’ am conducting further study into this area – the area of diseases; like cancer, diabetes, and diseases of the heart, will be looked at. Why do they persist? Why does God allow it to persist? Are they the result of cause and effect? But again, that is for another study. Let us keep our focus.
Getting back to what we were talking about in reference to the nephesh, I don’t yet understand how “because of the angels” (I Cor 11:10) fits into this. But there is something about this beautiful “pearl” that they understand and observe. When the sons of God were with the women in Genesis 6, they were perverting God’s design. And when mankind today lives an orgy-like existence, they may be spitting in God’s face saying, “We don’t need God…we are our own gods!” “And we will procreate ourselves (our nephesh) any ol’ way we wish!” It becomes a moral issue as opposed to an ethical one. An ethical issue, like cloning or contraceptives can only be understood in its broader aspects when it comes to issues of morality.
But while we are at it, let us consider cloning. Is cloning wrong? That new life does not come about by the God-ordained man-to-woman giving of the nephesh. One’s own nephesh becomes copied. There becomes more than one nephesh of that person’s self. Remember that God is “One.” Man is in God’s “One” – image.
Dear Reader…the question is asked of you. Who are you? Do you claim to be a Christian? Do you claim to be in Christ? But are you also “loving the world?” “Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him” (I Jn 2:15). Remember, we “cannot serve two masters” (Mt 6:24). We either love one and hate the other, or hate the first, and love the second. Man, are you a pure man? Woman, do you have only one man’s nephesh? As a Christian, do you have only Christ’s nephesh? Or do you have the nephesh from all sorts of different sources of the world? If a person observes you, do they ask the question, “Who is he/she?” I can’t tell. They say one thing out of their mouths, but their lives tell a different tale. “Who are they?” “Who are you?” “Whose soul (nephesh) do you have?”
Is it your 1st love?